Life has straight and curved roads -

Oh friends. Why does it feel the universe has popped challenges to so many … when January can already be such a challenging month!? 😩

We begin new years full of hope of change & improvement… and often the idea sounds fairly easy, but the incorporation is anything BUT easy!

I have had clients and friends being hit from all angles with “pop up” challenges. Their health, their children’s health, job loss, too much emotional stress, house sales, impending divorce, new career paths and the list goes on… 😣

Reality is that this is usually a bit how how life rolls. Some olanet alignments do seem to cause more disorder, (😬🫢) but more often that not … life is not orderly and perfectly easy. Things don’t usually go quite as we envision!

If you find yourself closing the last week of January disappointed with your inability to achieve new goals. Or if you feel discouraged and unsure of what you even want… I encourage you to accept what is and pause.

Give yourself some time to breathe and evaluate … Consider what little steps you might be able to take in order to have a bit more control/peace. One, or two tiny things can make waves of improvement with how you feel. Determine what you CAN do… No need to try to explain or “make it make sense” to others! ♡

One month won’t make or break anyone. 🫶🏻 - Fill your mind with positive affirmations and positive people. Try to laugh more. Spend more time in the presence of people you feel you can be 100% genuine with. Write. What comes from your mind to the paper? That can hold clues to what’s at your core of conflict and struggle. 🤔

Straight roads and mountain tops are my favorite!! However many years ago I was taught that life is never full of straight roads or mountain top highs on repeat. Our growth, our change, our perseverance and our character grow in the bends and valleys.

Twenty years ago this weekend I had an unexpected life change that broke my heart ❤️‍🩹 … I hated how that felt and that it reminded me we cannot control all things. I already disliked January (cold and dark) and that loss made me despise it more …

That struggle, and most struggles break us, but eventually after time and healing they help build us back to a different version over time. They give our soul depth once we heal. We can use the pain to help others in their pain…

I like to believe those bends in the roads and valleys give us all more joy and perspective for the straight road paths and mountain top views that come back in life.

Keep finding the people and places that help keep you #centered. Be more aware of what you read and watch. Turn off the flawless influencer showing workouts they do everyday, or the perfect mother telling you how easy she has made a spotless house and meal prep, or the perfect couple etc No one is winning and thriving everyday. Stop watching filtered highlight reels !!

I want to close this cold, sometimes challenging month with words of encouragement! ☀️☀️ Please remember that it is okay to not feel happy, centered and peaceful all the time. It’s okay to not set in motion big healthy habits as intended this month! Try and try again. Better health is a journey! 👏🏻

You’re the driver. Steer through the bends, and know the road will get more straight again. I’m hopeful we can close this month recalling the positives… and remembering our strength and skill is still being built! 💓💚

Centered on your time and your ultimate goals •

It’s always a good idea to evaluate where you are and where you are heading!

This is a parable of a fisherman and a banker … hope you take a minute to read this. This beckons us to ask “then what!” 🤔 —-  please read and then ask yourself what and how you’re using TIME… Healthy lives with less regrets happen when you stay #centered and live your life with reality checks and “intention” each day. ~• 💚 

The Fisherman & the Banker

An American investment banker was taking a much-needed vacation in a small coastal Mexican village when a small boat with just one fisherman docked. The boat had several large, fresh fish in it.

The investment banker was impressed by the quality of the fish and asked the Mexican how long it took to catch them.

The Mexican replied, “Only a little while.”

The banker then asked why he didn’t stay out longer and catch more fish?

The Mexican fisherman replied he had enough to support his family’s immediate needs.

The American then asked: “But what do you do with the rest of your time?”

The Mexican fisherman replied,

“I sleep late, fish a little, play with my children, take siesta with my wife, stroll into the village each evening where I sip wine and play guitar with my amigos: I have a full and busy life, señor.

The investment banker scoffed:

“I am an Ivy League MBA, and I could help you. You could spend more time fishing and with the proceeds buy a bigger boat, and with the proceeds from the bigger boat you could buy several boats until eventually, you would have a whole fleet of fishing boats. Instead of selling your catch to the middleman, you could sell directly to the processor, eventually opening your own cannery. You could control the product, processing and distribution.”

Then he added: “Of course, you would need to leave this small coastal fishing village and move to Mexico City where you would run your growing enterprise.”

The Mexican fisherman asked, “But señor, how long will this all take?”

To which the American replied: “15–20 years.

“But what then?” asked the Mexican.

The American laughed and said,

“That’s the best part. When the time is right you would announce an IPO and sell your company stock to the public and become very rich. You could make millions.”

“Millions, señor? Then what?”

To which the investment banker replied:

“Then you would retire. You could move to a small coastal fishing village where you would sleep late, fish a little, play with your kids, take siesta with your wife, stroll to the village in the evenings where you could sip wine and play your guitar with your amigos.”

Centered on halloween

Happy Halloween. Don’t spend the day at the mercy of tiny packages!!! 🍡🍫🍬😫

Seriously •> I used to obsess, I tried to outwork “my food mistakes” — I felt there wasn’t a happy medium or balance...but there really is! If you need to taste the candy, then DO!! One day - and a few pieces will NOT erase weeks of work. Just savor - taste it, stop acting like it’s a “treat” — it’s just food! We need food to survive. Deprivation and diets don’t work ... If you don’t believe me, look at the research!! Restrictive food “plans” work just while you stay on them!! They ALL enhance the behavior of “good” v “bad” and can destroy self worth!! 😣 ~I teach “lifestyle.” We don’t work to obsess, we work to find our version of feeling/being our best. It includes, celebrations and stress and the day to day! Eating better out of habit because it makes us feel better. It helps us align with knowing we do have self control within us …

Today is a “holiday” many celebrate... People enjoy dressing up, celebrating fall...AND there is candy around...Let it just be, and don’t use food as a reward!! ••> Be intentional as you work on “what” you eat and “why” you eat it!! ••> Healthier food relationships, help you live life more centered and really will help you feel your best!! 〰️

“Less obsession and more direction with your food” is a meaningful goal.

Have a #centered Halloween! 💚👻

Centered on people in your path

Sometimes we expend our energy trying to change people. We want to help them. We think we know what they need, or how they can change.

It is SO difficult to make changes to ourselves. What makes us think we could have power to change someone else?

Try to get to know yourself more. What do you think and believe? How do you want to expend your energy?

I’m trying to let go of changing others. People are people. Not all are for us. Not all are against us. Where do they fit in your life?

Take the power to determine who needs to be close. Who needs to be outside the circle. Don’t use so much of your resource trying to “fix” someone. Be kind. Let them be. Then find where they fit in your path, and move forward centered and confident. 💚

Centered on a healthy mindset

~• Your mindset matters so much with how you feel!! What are you intentionally doing to fill your brain with healthy/good thoughts? What are you doing for peace of mind? Do the people around you help or hurt your brain?!

In the quest to be well, we often forget what we listen to, read, watch and whom we spend time with WILL IMPACT our brain and thoughts... 🥺

I flipped to the newsfeed this morning and the 1st four articles are DOOM, GLOOM, TERROR, SADNESS >> 😣nooo thank you! That is NOT how I want to begin a new day!! Bye newsfeed! 👋🏼 💥

I flipped on the car radio and in 10 minutes flipping stations I HEAR four commercials about CANCER, CHEMO, unsuspected tumors!! WTH??? 🤯🤯 NO radio! Thank you for choices...

P A Y. A T T E N T I O N ‼️

•>>Let’s be more aware than ever before of what we feed OUR brain! A healthy mind doesn’t just “happen” by accident... it’s just like a healthy body!! Movement matters—- So move the newsfeed to a couple days a week —- move the radio station if ads come on selling fear and death —- •Unsubscribe•

Want to feel better?? •>>

Be AWARE more than ever and protect your HEALTH. health! Mentally and physically!! 🙌🏼

You CAN make small daily choices to feel better and live more #centered! Start today... 💚✔️

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#mindset #mentalheath #feelbetter #payattention #deletenewsapps #unfollow #unsubscribe #takebackyourpower #choices #goodpeople #goodenergy #bedeliberate #liveyourbestlife #starttoday

#livecentered #feelbetter

Centered on feeling better ~•

Back in the lab this week ...

While I was away one thing I noticed more and more is the state of mental health in our country the past year ... What’s being done to help all these people struggling? Big pharma ... but what else?

So little mention about exercise, food, environment, friendships etc - People are truly struggling... Of course I don’t have all the answers but here are a few things I have discovered thru my years of disordered eating / toxic friendships / and a career I didn’t enjoy:

⭐️ moving our body helps our brain (walks, dance, biking, yoga) do something everyday. 10 minutes is better than zero!

⭐️friends can add fun or frustration. IF they make life complicated... put you down or can’t be trusted, listen to your gut and let gooooo.... you will find new and toxic is never going to make you feel better

⭐️ stop staring at filtered newsfeeds. Real life looks different. Wrinkles, cellulite, blemishes — that’s real. Airbrushed makeup is not. 😣

⭐️Food is fuel. We don’t question what to fill our car with BUT we are confused about what to fill our bodies with. Analyze what Whole Foods you eat. Whole foods from the earth NOT processed are best. More organic, less processed. Don’t get crazy and don’t eliminate food groups. Use your brain and find some healthy new recipes. Nothing is bad or good. If you’re emotionally eating, find a therapist or coach to help sort feelings that trigger food splurging.

⭐️Careers can be a source of passion or a pain. If you find yourself living for the weekend figure out if it’s the place or the position. Make a list / then make adjustments. What else is possible? What might be a better option to pursue? A great salary only goes so far. A life you enjoy and a job that helps lift and inspire is better for our brain.

⭐️Drinks can drain us. I love a coffee, or green tea BUT empty sugar or alcohol just doesn’t have much space in my goals. A piece of dark chocolate over sugary lemonade is a no brainer for me. Again, it’s moderation not deprivation. Big difference in how you feel and calories involved with a “glass” of wine versus a “bottle”...

⭐️Believe in yourself, and if you can’t, then find people that do and can help!

Centered on quiet breaks ~•

Now more than ever, I think it’s vital to find quiet time in your weekly agenda. The past year as been an experience no one ever imagined. The conflict and confusion has caused many educated people to pause. The core of our beliefs typically lie within us, but often can get confused by people around us.

In order to live our life more peaceful and centered, we must acknowledge who we are and what we do. How we feel is personal and internal. ... Don’t let others define your life. You will look back years later with regret if you do.

Take quiet breaks to reflect, Thinking about your feelings and journaling can help you find (or *stay*) on track to living the life you imagine. There will always be blocks and bumps, but you define the destination you are heading towards! You “hold the pen” to writing the chapters of YOUR life. Your friends, your parents, and your colleagues get their own life to write. Listen to their advice, but be extra careful to listen to YOUR inner voice!

Becoming the person you strive to be in this big world will take moments of quiet and reflection ... make time for them. Peace is not given to us... we must create it ~• 🤍🤍

Centered on “your” path ~ 💚

. 〰️• Evolve without guilt. This one can be tough because it may involve people or family you were once very close to...It may involve things that were part of your life for a LONG time.

When you begin to evolve and make changes, some people may try to guilt you and ask why you’re changing, being distant etc.

Living your healthiest is a personal journey. It’s recognizing what is toxic and what is truly good for your spirit. Don’t be cornered with guilt and fear. Be thankful for what was shared, what you learned and what needs to be let go.

Stay #centered on the life you want and the direction you are heading ... You know best ~ ✨🦋💫

Centered on more SPACE ❤️

“February” is finally here. Amazing how long January can feel‼️ ••• this month I think we should “find time” for people/things that make us feel healthy- loved- happy. 🥰

How do you “find” time? Look 👀 over your weekly schedule and see what you have really committed to!!

... then determine how you FEEL about those commitments••>> Happy? Resentful? Stressed? Excited? — 🤔

Take back some of your life! Give yourself permission to let some “commitments” go, so you can make SPACE!!

... Finding time for things that build you up and make you enjoy life more is incredibly important !! If you have kiddos they will love having a happier more peaceful parent too - (Especially as we live in what feels like the twilight zone these days!) 🌀😯

No one else will find time for YOUR wellness and self improvement!! You are in charge of your journey- the good, bad and ugly. It impacts YOU, so hold yourself in power... ❤️

Tiny steps to make MORE space for things you truly enjoy is the best way to redirect your life and build it into a place for less annoyance — less resentment — less unhealthy hectic days.

What do you gain?? ••>> more joy — more fun — more love for life and the journey you are on. The people around you will be impacted in positive ways too. ✨✨

Love yourself enough to redirect/change/improve the journey and you’ll live a life of less regrets ~• Be #centered on love and good energy as we start a new month! 💌❣️

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#love #wellness #health #peaceofmind #timeforyourself #selfcare #selflove #thisisyourlife #moredeliberatelymyself #joy #maketime #livecentered

Centered on living deliberate this December 💫

Wellness is more than a workout. Trying to live life •centered• requires us to work on ways to take better care of our mind, body and spirit. Compassion, kindness and living our life intentionally CAN happen if we are willing to invest time in our journey ... Let’s try a new challenge to close 2020 ~•

Week 1 -

**Journal 4 things you are grateful for each day 

~journal thoughts and feelings you have ~ journal how you would like to live/feel better … Any notebook will do! Just reconnect with yourself.

Week 2- 

** Move  your body / dance, walk, do yoga 

or get some weights from the store! Find exercise you enjoy and start moving 10-20 minutes a day! We have to begin somewhere. Find an accountability pal/ Create a new habit!  

Week 3 - 

**What are you eating !??! Eat less processed! Add more veggies & fruit to your shopping list! Eat more “whole/real food” this week ~• Take a minute to find a new healthier recipe to try! It’s amazing how good healthy can taste, and how much better we FEEL when we pay attention to ingredients we eat!

Week 4 - 

**Take 10 minutes a day to connect

Write a letter to someone you are thinking of. Snail mail may not be “in” but it can really brighten someone’s day! If you have time, make a call to someone that is lonely or someone that means a lot to you! People love to feel appreciated and know they have made a difference! Don’t wait! 

Week 5 - 

** Look up... look around 

If possible get out in nature...breathe in fresh air… Make time for yourself — A new book or new podcast 5-15 minutes a day can really be a perk and an escape from stress! 

Mini changes add up. 10 minutes CAN make a big difference!! 

Continue this pattern to find tiny ways to make better habits happen ... The phone, the media feed are NOT helping us feel or live better!! 

You have power within to create a more centered and healthier way of life. Never give away control of things you CAN do ... your life is ALWAYS worth the time & investment. 

Close  2020 more centered on self improvement. 

〰️• L

Centered on self care to close September 💚

We close this month still facing so much uncertainty. It’s hard. People are dealing with much. It’s sad to watch despair. It’s hard to focus with fear and anxiety swirling ...

What are you doing? How are you keeping yourself well? What helps you!? ... Friends, faith, exercise, books, bubble baths? As I connect with my clients I hear all of the above (+wine) 🧘🏼‍♀️✝️🏋️📚 🛀🏽 /🍷 —

I don’t have answers, but I do know the value of self care! Especially in times of stress. I want to encourage you to find something to help you relax. Be intentional to focus on reasons to smile. Take care of yourself. Connect with the people that remind you to laugh and enjoy life (even tough chapters)! Check on your friends... Look for the light. Everyday there is some out there...Adjust your focus, and make time to see positive. Don’t quit being a light. Don’t quit looking up. 💚 💫🌟 •••

#everyday #findlight #lookforgood #begood #sharelove #compassion #benicetoyourself #bekindtoeachother #wellness #health #peaceofmind #light #love #adjustyourfocus #livecentered

Centered on designing your life path

She, he, it doesn’t matter! You ARE designing your life with each decision. Each time you say “yes, okay” and each time you fail to say “no thank you...”

If you know me at all, you know I am intrigued with wellness, people and regrets 100% of the time. I am always amazed how many people live “putting in their time” or just living in limbo until ... they get brave or wake up!!? Why do we do this? Mediocre isn’t a goal!! 👎🏼

I encourage you to truly evaluate what you are writing in your life chapter and why... constantly evaluate your path. What you love and desire may change, BUT the beautiful part, is you hold the pen to make the change! Don’t live locked up in obligation and duty to someone else’s narrative!! When new goals and horizons interest you ... FIND the power to start a new chapter and make gains toward that new direction. Sitting in autopilot counting down days and months isn’t healthy or wise. 😑...

No one can predict how much time anyone has left. Be deliberate to design and redesign your life in a quest to fill it with the people and things that bring you passion and peace. Less regret and more intention should be a daily quest. 💚✨ ~• L

Centered on the view ~

Ahh ☀️☀️ Morning circuit view... it’s sad I used to get so focused on the agenda I missed a lot of blue skies. I would think of where to be, what needed done, who I had to meet...

Owning any business requires a lot of YOU, even when it is your passion and you LOVE what you’re doing. 💚 ••Mid year last year I started to change. I still lived with too many obligations, but I started saying NO to some opportunities. I “listened” to my gut over the glory of one more event or venue. I wrecked my car hurrying to a day of obligations. I cried. I paused. I wrote down more of my vision. I said NO I’m “not able to do that” more often…. or NO despite this great opportunity it doesn’t feel like it’s really right for me. I evaluated. 🤔

I was excited and started 2020 with a list of MY priorities & values and how I could teach fitness, wellness & healthy lifestyle AND still KEEP my own values at a healthy pace... New Year = Bennett got SUPER sick 😣 (Scary virus reminding me more about what truly matters...) Then as he got well, I got sick 😷 (did NOT need another slow down...) My cousin the same age as me passed away Unexpectedly 😢 ( OK God, I’m so sad and I see the billboard!! ..,tomorrow is truly NOT gpromised to anybody!!) ... Then covid etc.

SOOOo here I was this morning looking at the sky teaching a circuit at my place. I have amazing clients that I try to share my “real life” with at the lab. ... Fitness is so important, but it’s a piece of what wellness truly is. Wellness and peace of mind is tough! It requires us to pause... be present...evaluate and ask ourselves hard questions about WHAT and WHO truly matter. It really doesn’t happen with weight loss or making tons more money... People think that’s the best solution, but it often means you are just smaller or richer and still feeling miserable …

It’s an ongoing journey to find your best- and it’s surely not a size or a look! (I know so many that look amazing and have no peace! They don’t live #centered a bit. •Live centered• is a verb and when you work on being centered, it should help you sleep better at night and live better during the day!! 🙌🏼

If I’m here to create and teach, I hope what I can continue to share and coach on is the gift of YOUR LIFE and YOUR path. Lifestyle choices ALWAYS rest on your shoulders. That’s right. YOU have the power. No one can do anything but you. A good trainer and teacher is there to share, listen, guide and connect...maybe it’s fitness, maybe food ideas, maybe toxic work/friend changes, or support group connections. It all adds up, and I love all of it! >>

BUT ... it’s taking personal ownership. Me included!! > I’ll teach it all better, IF I’m doing it better myself. I notice and appreciate that sky now. I invite less crazy / stressful obligations. I evaluate what really is important to me and work on a couple of those REALLY important things at a time!! I hope you think about this and work to do the same. This is YOUR life. It’s a gift, and it won’t last forever. Nor will the people you love…

Let me know if you need some coaching or connection. I’ll be doing my paperwork on the porch... Evaluating and enjoying the view today. ☀️

💚 ~• L

Centered on your best…

#tuesdaytruth ~• Doing your best will change with different life chapters. I am in good company when it comes to recent setbacks... I have an injury that has flared and my adrenals are taxed! The recent pandemic has caused some to feel less energy for their health/wellness...others are feeling amazing and more motivated than ever! My best looked different a year ago. Life changes can be tough. Injuries and challenges will happen to all of us ... How do we handle it when we can’t be the best? Rolling with setbacks, and not giving up is in your power. Focus energy on what you can do at this moment. We are always capable of doing “something” over nothing at all. No excuses. Each day keep doing what you CAN to be better than the day before. 😜 Setbacks come and go, resilience and NOT comparing are healthy strategies. Your best is your OWN journey... Stay #centered on that . 🙌🏼💚

Centered on “mindset” for May

New month! Here we are in the 5th month of 2020... Let’s use •mindset in May• as our wellness angle.
So many of us felt exhausted by 2019, and had high hopes for this year. Guess we never saw this one coming! 😳 - In midst of the confusion, and chaos, let’s keep our MINDSET in a good place.
•Read anything but the news daily.
•Help friends or strangers if you are BLESSED to have extra!!
•Move your body because you can!!
•Eat to improve your immune system and health!!
Despite the tough times, we truly CAN control our mindset. Find the people and hobbies that help you feel happy, then pursue those! Look forward to a new 31 days!! Stay smart. Stay safe! Stay #centered 💛•☀️•💚

Centered on your course (even when it makes no sense)

We will all endure gray days, heartbreaks and moments that we wish we could erase. Our faith and endurance is never built when we are on the mountain top... The stories will be different, but we have to look for the light in the midst of the dark days. staying #centered doesn’t mean staying clear of any heartbreak or sadness… I’m taking #wellnesswednesday to reflect. It’s unbelievable that 16 years ago (on a 30 below zero day) I lost a 3rd pregnancy at 24 weeks. 👼🏻It was hell. I had good gut instinct, and knew before I “knew” ... I was healthy! I wanted this baby! My heart was broken, and I wanted answers I never got... it’s common until it happens to you. I hurt, and felt mad, but I had to work hard to grieve, yet focus on the 2 healthy girls I had waiting at home... (God gave me lessons and perspective I never could imagine) People rose up and carried me thru the shock and hurt. 🙏🏻💫 ~ Today I’m not feeling sad. It’s been 16 years and I am feeling thankful for people who have loved me thru the best and worst angles of life and Lisa. Thankful for the people I can do the same for. Thankful I had Bennett Vail that ended that season on a positive ✨ and Madi and Ry as proof I could do it again! I’m thankful I could encourage and support others thru pregnancy loss or uncertainty. It’s what life is really about. Hurting. Healing. Helping. Over and Over...Staying strong and centered on our life path, even when it may not make sense. There are no people who live without pain, heartbreak or loss. It’s part of life. (happy heavenly birthday to the girl I held a moment, but changed me forever. Katelyn Hope 💫) 🙏🏻💖

Centered on HOPE

My dining room tree doesn’t come down for a bit... I will soon have bright red hearts scattered on it, so it becomes a “valentine’s” tree ❤️and after that shamrocks. 🍀 ... I think I will keep the HOPE ornament on too ... I enjoy the lights and the memories of the tree thinking about all the kids home over the holidays. The dinners, the coffees the quality time with dear friends... I’m not a fan of winter (as most know 😑) HOPE is a big word for a sad life event I endured 15+ago in January... HOPE reminds me •spring and summer will return. 🌷 •I will see the girls soon. 👩‍👧‍👧~ •Ben is healthy & busy again 🏀⚾️- •I will NOT always live in IL. 🧳 Etc ... In the cold dark days of winter or life, we need people and visual reminders to know “this too shall pass...” Are you keeping your people or visual reminders around when needed? (Even if it’s a little Christmas/seasonal tree?) I encourage you to start ~ 💫💚 #livecentered

Live Centered way of life …

Six years ago I had a goal to be a trainer and a coach that helped people “LIVE” better... I became a certified personal trainer bc I assumed many would say exercise was their goal... As I spent more time in the gym with my clients, I studied more food/nutrition bc it became obvious people were so confused by what to eat. Paleo/whole 30 keto- meals became “rocket science” to many... It also became obvious that “lifestyle” in general impacted so much of how they felt, what they do, so I studied and became a “wellness” Coach ...and I continue to study wellness and behavior change for all stages and ages! 〰️• Most of my learning actually comes from the 100s of people I’ve been able to work with! Each “shoe shot” represents a person working on a better version of themselves...whether it’s a workout or a workshop to learn new ideas. My signature #centered shoe shot leaves no room for anyone to not like “their picture” bc we all look amazing, fit and healthy in that picture. 🙌🏼😍💯 ••> My passion is people and living better lives...and they teach me while I teach them!! I don’t have all the answers ... I do know the people, the clients, their connections will make you or break you. I’m forever grateful for the amazing souls I’ve worked along side the past 6 years. Wellness, health and lifestyle is such a PERSONAL thing. I’m humbled for those that choose to share their stories and struggles, and allow me to help... #livecentered is a way of life goal. It doesn’t “end” and is NOT one size fits all. I must get to know each person, each struggle, each goal...Life changes, and people’s ideas of wellness changes. 〰️• The people have and WILL ALWAYS be the best part of this self employed journey. I’m closing 2019 with lots of possibilities. I also want to remind you all to NEVER give up on what you dream. I’ve learned if you can hold the vision...you CAN make it happen. 〰️•💚•🤍• With gratitude, love & respect always. Lisa

#livecentered #wellness #health #fitness #centered #wayoflife #itsaverb #keepgoing #youcan #believe #achieve #makethingshappen #feelbetter #dobetter #livebetter #youmatter

Centered on choices

Hi Monday. It’s the last week of 2019. It may not have been our best year, but “own” what has been. The excuses, distractions, good intentions that didn’t happen. Right along with the great things you did and the challenges you persevered... Lets.Own.It.All. 〰️•Then, let us make this last week about looking forward to what NEW choices we can make! What are they? What’s on your must do in 2020 list ?

See it, believe it...Starting today. Keep your list and focus on “an item” that must change, then work to line up what is takes... ONE choice at a time. ✨💫 •••

#manifestation #monday #newweek #thisisyourlife #newyear #2020 #learn #live #improve #bekindtoyourself #worksinprogress #wellness #fitness #healthy #peaceofmind #livecentered #lifestyle

Centered on people and more peace of mind ✨

“Spend time with people that are good for your mental health…”

I think if I would have stumbled across this quote ten years back, it may not have resonated as much as it does today. Especially in my teens and early adult years I never considered what “people” had to do with my state of mind! Being more aware of how people make us feel, is often not a consideration. We work, we are in social circles, we may lead some groups, and for the most part we keep the pace and enjoy the day to day …

Hopefully at some point, a light bulb goes off and we realize more how people make us feel. We can begin to question why we are involved in particular groups, coffee dates or with people that love to ridicule or make you feel a bit irrelevant.

In reality condescending and rude people will always be a part of life. We must learn to cope in a healthy way with this behavior in the office, or beyond IF we must be around these people. We also must teach our children how to deal with unhealthy friends, acquaintances and coworkers.  Avoidance is a healthy option. Toxic people are everywhere. If we must be in settings with them AWARENESS is key. 

• Being kind but not “making time for extra engagement” is a start.

• Learning how to ignore and not retaliate can help.

• Choosing to find people that encourage and support you nearby is vital.

• Knowing who you are, and not letting people sway your opinion or self worth.

• Choosing not to be around them except when required is key.

If you are feeling a bit slighted and not centered, please remember you do HAVE CHOICES! All ages/stages will have tough situations with people, but learning to ignore and feel helpless is not a goal. Pay attention. Do you need to be in this group? Can you say NO to more coffee and lunch dates that make you feel bad? Try to own your power for health and peace of mind! CHOOSE not to be “in the situation” to begin with.

As we all know, life goes pretty quick. The sooner we realize who the encouragers, supporters, unconditionals are in our path, we should no longer feel obligated to exchange time for people that hurt us.

As we close out 2019, lets pay more attention to all angles of our health and wellbeing. Let’s consider who is building and who is breaking our stride...Then be deliberate and determined to find more space for those that HELP your mental health and state of mind. You are lovely. You are smart. You are worthy. You decide who makes you feel that way, and who doesn’t. Then plan your new calendar accordingly.

#livecentered ~